I saw a movie today, 'Paa'; really really nice movie, but I am not writing a review of the movie. What I want to discuss, is a thought, that came to my mind as I was watching a scene in the movie. Vidya Balan, one of the protagonist, is with her mother, and having discussion if she should give birth to the child, considering she is now out of her relationship, would be a single mother and still has three years of education left. In this scene, she is portrayed as sobbing and counting all the problems she will face, if she gave birth to this child. While in response to her each argument, her mother just kept on asking - if she really wants this child or not. Finally her mother gave example of her own, how she raised Vidya when her father died while she was just two years old, and then her mother didn't even had any help, Vidya at least has her mother along to help her.
Sometimes when its really hard to take a decision and choose between the options; its easier and often better to look inside for what we really want, rather than looking outside to see all the problems associated. Doing this way, it definitely makes it easier to take a decision, and channels all our thoughts towards how it can be achieved, rather than concentrating just over its problems. And of course one would rather be more happier to strive for and would put more efforts for something that person really wants from depths of heart.
However there is a limitation to this principle, following one's heart sure make it easier to take a decision among choices as I said before, but its not always recommended in every situation. It might only be beneficial to follow, when all the options have same weight, or I must say are equally tempting; so much so that it becomes really difficult to decide which one to choose. However, for most of the important decisions, its not recommended to just follow one's heart, rather all aspects of the options needs to be given consideration.
And final note, for decision that concerns those we love and care, just follow the heart, considering their wishes, for decisions that comes under the category of 'KFP', "Kee Farak Painda (hai)", meaning "What difference does it make". Whereas when deciding something that would come under the category of 'BFP', "Bahut Farak Painda (hai)", meaning "It does make lot of difference", even if it makes some of the loved ones gloomy for a while, just follow the mind, consider the logic, what it thinks is more feasible and rational. If the decision taken is well thought over, even if it makes few gloomy for a while, chances are they would appreciate and be thankful for it, in the end of the day.
